that's a lot of words just to say you wanted to shag with a woman you didn’t really respect, but were more interested in dissecting and 'fixing' her beliefs. really rational of you to patronize her ideas like that, I must say. and how thoughtful of you to invite her back to your place after dismissing her values—definitely less rude than using her for content and putting it out on the internet, cheers
Hi Joan. For one, she was just as much challenging my beliefs as I was hers. The exchange and debate was mutual. Secondly we didn’t shag (for what it’s worth, I’d need a lot more than two dates, takes me a while to be comfortable with someone in that way), I was quite open about disagreeing with her, and her me. Yet we still enjoyed hanging out after our discussion. Mutual respect, mutual disagreement, but also a mutual understanding that she was heading home soon, so chances to hang in future would be limited anyway. I think I was the precise opposite of dishonest, as was she.
I was clear in the post - she was a lovely intelligent person. I do think she’s wrong about some parts of reality, and it was strange to meet someone whose beliefs differ that radically. But then I have a lot of friends who have different opinions to me, and I still cherish them (which I also mention).
And as for using her for content - I think anonymising and writing about real dating/romance stories is pretty normalised (or indeed, many facets of life). Plus, conspiracist ideas in general are becoming more mainstream (see the US administration) - while I don’t think things need to be relevant to justify their existence, I do think that helps.
that's a lot of words just to say you wanted to shag with a woman you didn’t really respect, but were more interested in dissecting and 'fixing' her beliefs. really rational of you to patronize her ideas like that, I must say. and how thoughtful of you to invite her back to your place after dismissing her values—definitely less rude than using her for content and putting it out on the internet, cheers
Hi Joan. For one, she was just as much challenging my beliefs as I was hers. The exchange and debate was mutual. Secondly we didn’t shag (for what it’s worth, I’d need a lot more than two dates, takes me a while to be comfortable with someone in that way), I was quite open about disagreeing with her, and her me. Yet we still enjoyed hanging out after our discussion. Mutual respect, mutual disagreement, but also a mutual understanding that she was heading home soon, so chances to hang in future would be limited anyway. I think I was the precise opposite of dishonest, as was she.
I was clear in the post - she was a lovely intelligent person. I do think she’s wrong about some parts of reality, and it was strange to meet someone whose beliefs differ that radically. But then I have a lot of friends who have different opinions to me, and I still cherish them (which I also mention).
And as for using her for content - I think anonymising and writing about real dating/romance stories is pretty normalised (or indeed, many facets of life). Plus, conspiracist ideas in general are becoming more mainstream (see the US administration) - while I don’t think things need to be relevant to justify their existence, I do think that helps.
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